We find that a large percentage of people who are dating for marriage don't have a good idea about how to develop a promising courtship.Years of working with singles have led us to the conclusion that contemporary singles should try to adapt old-fashioned courtship practices to their own lifestyle.While The Good Men Project regularly runs stories on sex and relationships, the Guyhood section has not yet taken a hard look (minds out of the gutter here) at dating, sex, love, and intimacy. As a reminder to our readers, even though the age range is arbitrarily chosen, Guyhood mainly focuses on issues pertaining to young men ages 18-24.That said, a little wiggle room either way is certainly understood.It may be that you have to "lead" the conversation because the woman you are with is a little on the shy side.After you've described your own hobby, if she doesn't volunteer her own information, why not ask her what she most likes to do in her spare time, when she first became interested in her hobby, if she has produced or worked on any projects she really enjoyed or is proud of, etc.If you don't have a strongly negative reaction to your date, we recommend that you ask her out again, for a slightly longer second date.Try not to stretch the date beyond 3 hours (4 hours only if you are engaged in some kind of activity that prevents you from talking, such as a concert.
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Instead, why not explain why you chose the field you did, what you like and dislike about it, and some of your best or worst job-related experiences.
Remember that these conversations are two-way streets. If you realize that you are doing too much of the talking, stop, apologize for doing so, and ask your date some questions.
The idea behind these "practices" is that it takes time for two people who think they have common values and goals to develop an emotional connection with each other, as well as the other ingredients that can form the foundation for a good marriage.
It may take a focused couple as little as a few weeks to arrive at the realization that they are right for each other, while others may need several months.
Don't be afraid to allow the conversation to get off on a small tangent.